Offenses are a primary cause of domestic, marital and family problems as well as in our society. Usually we don't really mean to offend someone or somebody whom we have met along our way. Words don't have the power to hurt you, unless the person who said it means so much to you.Have you ever experienced being betrayed or hurt by someone you loved? Someone whom you have gave your life to that person? Everyone in life is gonna hurt you, You just have to figure out which people are worth the pain. Being hurt is something you can't stop from happening, but being miserable is always your choice. The worst thing about that kind of prejudice... is that while you feel hurt and angry and all the rest of it, it feeds you self-doubt. You start thinking, perhaps I am not good enough. All men and women have an equal need for love. When these needs are not fulfilled it is easy to have our feelings hurt, for which we blame our partner.
Accept that all of us can be hurt, that all of us can and surely will at times fail. Other vulnerabilities, like being embarrassed or risking love, can be terrifying, too. I think we should follow a simple rule: if we can take the worst, take the risk.
When people hurt you over and over, think of them like sand paper. They scratch and hurt you a bit, but in the end, you end up polished and realized how grateful you are because of that pain it changes a lot in you and makes you realized that there's a lot more important in life to go on. You have to hurt in order to know, fall in order to grow, lose in order to gain, Because most of life's lessons are learned in pain. You have to get hurt.. that's how you learn... the strongest people out there...the ones who laugh the hardest with a genuine smile...those are the people who have fought the toughest battles. Because they decided that they're not going to let anything hold them down...they're moving on. Don't try to understand everything, because sometimes it is not meant to be understood, but to be accepted.
I know when I am offended, I must quickly forgive. Forgiveness is the only answer! It is the way of escape! The quicker I forgive, the quicker I come back into my right mind. When I am offended my soul is in control. When I forgive, my spirit rises up above my soul and takes back over. One of the main reasons we are so easily offended is pride. The most humbling thing you can do is apologize when you are wrong. We are all wrong at some point. When it is your turn, do something beneficial about it. Apologize. It will force you to humble yourself and will speak volumes to the other person. Learn to listen. Most of us don’t. We listen to people that we agree with because we already like what they are saying. but we rarely listen to anyone else. The only way to understand another person is to hear what they have to say. To listen with the goal of understanding, not arguing. Taking responsibility for our actions is much harder than finding someone or something to blame.
To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. How does one know if she has forgiven? You tend to feel sorrow over the circumstance instead of rage, you tend to feel sorry for the person rather than angry with him. You tend to have nothing left to say about it all. There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness. Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness. Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace. Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond imperfections. The amount of love you have for someone seems to always be greater than the amount of pain they give you. Because no matter how much they hurt you, we still choose to stay. We don't meet people by accident. They are meant to cross our path for a reason. You will begin to heal yourself when you let go of the things that hurt you in the past, forgive those who have done wrong to you and learn to forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made.
Immature people always want to win an argument even at the cost of a relationship. Mature people understand that it's always better to lose an argument and win a relationship. You want to believe that there's one relationship in life that's beyond betrayal. A relationship that's beyond that kind of hurt. And there isn't.
We need to give each other the space to grow, to be ourselves, to exercise our diversity. We need to give each other space so that we may both give and receive such beautiful things as ideas, openness, dignity, joy, healing, and inclusion.
Open your eyes, look within... Are you satisfied with the life you're living? As a mother, you have that impulse to wish that no child should ever be hurt, or abused, or go hungry, or not have opportunities in life. I used to hurt so badly that I'd ask God why, what have I done to deserve any of this? I feel now He was preparing me for this, for the future. That's the way I see it.
Everyone can relate to love, hurt, pain, learning how to forgive, needing to get over, needing the power of God in their life. Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. The most important thing is to enjoy your life - to be happy - it's all that matters.
"Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all sins" -Proverbs 10:12
